Anti LGBT Groups in #Singapore are at it again and Ministry of Home Affairs gave them a brotherly hug

SingaporeIsNoIsland

 

I don’t know why, but I thought that this would be the year when the Singaporean Taliban (aka the we hate all things that looks gay and happy) would give in and accept that love is universal.

NO SUCH THING!!

The Wear White campaign and the joker aka Lawrence Khong made a tiny peep that hardly could be heard. The white shirts were relatively absent this year, and it actually took an effort to find out that they did something at all.

But I think that the pictures from Saturdays Pink Dot showed too many happy and carefree people, and if there are something that Singaporeans clearly hate, then it is to see other Singaporeans happy when they aren’t a part of it. I mean why else are we year after year rated as the most unhappy and miserable nation in the world?

It could of course just be that the haters have understood(or believe) that we in the LGBTQ community just have more satisfying sex?

But we clearly make them angry and upset. To them it is not enough to just say “we don’t agree with you, but we accept your right to be a free Singaporean”.

To my surprise they (the anti gay supporters)  came up with an oddly strange rant about the UN and United States  and that – read white people aka Caucasians or Ang Moh’s – should stay away from Singapore and let Singapore do what Singapore wants to do on its own – including hunting down everything gay within her borders.

The other surprise is that Singapore’s Ministry of Home Affairs(MHA) within hours came with a reply that generally supported it. MHA are notorious about their late non replies to public issues so that anyone in the ministry read that document, arranged a committee steering meeting, arranged a statement, had it rewritten a few times and then released an approved press release within a few hours. That is just crazy efficient when it comes to them. If I were a person who ran around with a tin foil hat, then this is the time I would cry foul and ask questions.

Lots of questions.

 

The letter, that generally said “White people. Fuck off” and blamed Obama (thanks Obama!) forgot that Singapore were literally founded by white people, with the strong help and support of a bag of glass pearls, and all through its days of independence and its current infrastructure have been planned by people from Europe and the Western world.

And not solely by United States. Mostly by the British.

The Singaporean culture and life is a blended mix of the East and the West, and Singapore would not be what it is today without the western world and it surely won’t be able to survive without their support and the companies that originated from there in the future.

Singapore would have some serious issues if all the western expats packed up and left the country. Even if they left their companies behind.

No. Lee Kuan Yew did not barehanded, barefooted and on his knees transform Singapore from a quiet innocent fishing village and into this red dot that we know as Singapore either. He and his running mates took over a well functioning, well oiled system – and lot of British bureaucracy. Hired (quite) a lot of foreigners (white people again) and asked them to save Singapore.

Then he walked out to write the history of Singapore the way he saw fit.

Yes I know that might piss off quite a lot of Singaporeans, but the miniscule number of westerns that are in Singapore today contribute to much more than most are probably willing to accept.

But in reality western influence is a major part of Singapore and you can’t stop it.

If you do, then please start by leaving the two country sized organizations; Google and Facebook, who both supported the Pink Dot event – and even supplied you with the tools to organize and attack Pink Dot with. All free of charge.

It is actually a little funny that the anti gay organizations pen a letter using Google services and distribute it through the channels and services provided by Facebook, both companies that they advocate to get rid of.

Someone please tell them the irony about that.

Can Singapore really afford to alienate all the companies who supported Pink Dot?
“Google, Barclays, BP, J.P. Morgan, Twitter, Goldman Sachs, Bloomberg, Apple, NBCUniversal, Microsoft, Facebook, Visa and GE”


When my relatives (the Singaporean Chinese part) came to Singapore in the 1800-something. They almost literally rode into town on the back of the opium trade, from China, and made an obscene fortune on it while they at the same time had a good time dealing with the British.

But as it is, the majority of my Singaporean relatives are thanks to their abilities to trade on human misery still richer than the 69% in Singapore and can still count judges, lawyers, high ranking pap members and scrupulous business leaders among its members, and all. Every. One. Of. Them. are there because they have been able to read the cultural changes. Not by isolation and ignorance

If it weren’t for the small detail called World War 2, then my family as a whole would not have lost the majority of their wealth and businesses and they would still be busy counting money and scheming up things.

At the same time, they are arrogant as fuck and see themselves as Singaporean Chinese purists, even the ones who didn’t fare well, that on one hand ignore everything about the family’s dealing with the opium trade in the past, while they on the other hand are proud to mention that they can trace the family back to almost the foundation of Singapore and therefore by their world view are more Singaporean than any other Singaporeans on this planet.

Something that my mother ruined by marrying an Ang Moh! “A fat white guy”, and by that polluted the pure blood of the family.

And especially when she had the audacity to give birth to a gay daughter.

How dared she do that!!

So when I read a letter like this, that Singapore should not be influenced by outsiders, that companies and individuals who come to Singapore to live and contribute, should not dare to think about supporting Pink Dot, then I get pissed because that letter is just as fucked up as my relatives are. The letter forget that the Singapore. The Singaporean culture is all about influence from others, influencing others, and that Singapore have never in its short history been an island on its own.

Yes, Yes I know that if you look at Google Map, then you might be saying “CHEY I can see water all around. Singapore IS an island you CHEAT!!~” but I am talking cultural and as a figure of speech.

Singapore have through all time been influenced by the west and the Singaporean life and culture is all about the influence from the west – and the east as well.

Singapore have never been without influence from the West and will not be free if you continue to use the services provided by the Western world.

What is funny when we in these days are looking towards the East, is that the elite of China don’t really count Singapore for much and for most of it see Singaporeans as a group of spoiled and arrogant bananas that might look and sound Chinese but when they open their mouth more sound like a bunch of western goons that have no love for PRC China and its people. So if Singapore rejects the West, where should Singapore go? South? North (Korea)?

Anyone who are penning a letter saying that Singapore is an island and will not be influenced by anyone from the outside have completely missed the point about Singapore and about the world.

Should only 3rd generation Singaporeans be allowed to support Pink Dot and be allowed to vote at elections in the future?

Or are the letter asking us to turn the country into the next North Korea? Do we really want to isolate us from the world?

Not a single religion have been founded in Singapore, so in reality the letter also asked us to ban and disband all religions in Singapore because they can by the wording in the letter also be seen as someone who meddle in Singaporean society.  

Every religion in Singapore came to the country by foreign decadence and influence were mostly brought in from the western countries by the way.  So dear MHA why not look into the religious threat that it clearly must be to the Singaporean culture because combined they own more land and more properties than any other outside imposed influence today, and if anything, they have more political capital than Pink Dot will ever have.

In fact religious organizations own so much land in Singapore that Singapore are the country in the world where most land (in percentage of the total land mass) are owned by religious organizations – if you exclude the Vatican from that equation that is.

We are number one in something again!! Yay!

So if anything, then these foreign influences clearly must be an even larger danger to Singaporean society and culture than Pink Dot and we the same-sex oddballs ever will be.

But why is it acceptable for foreign anti gay groups from especially USA to finance anti gay groups in Singapore? Why is it acceptable for foreign anti gay groups and religious communities to have strategy meetings and get advice on how to deal with the LGBT movement in Singapore?

Singapore have two ways to go. Either the country accept change and eventually embrace it – even if it means acceptance to us decadent homosexuals or it can close its borders. Send home everyone who can’t trace their blood back to the foundation of Singapore and then we can begin to let uncle Lee look at things with uncle Kim from North Korea and post it on Instagram

Send home all the maids, construction workers and the Chinese bus drivers. Return all the bankers and leave Singapore to the real Singaporeans. Then wait with a Milo in hand and see how long that will last.

Oh no. Singapore produces no food on its own (the last farms are shutting down now) and we don’t have clean water either. So I guess the Milo need to be rainwater instead.  

Yum!

 

Pink Dot already won by its non confrontational stance. It has won the hearts of most straight young Singaporeans, and it is really a very small number of Singaporeans who don’t want to accept that the conservative Singapore is no more.

Homosexuality is not something that you can ban out of the country. There are too many of us now. Too many who are already out. We are free no matter what you say and do to us, and the world at large are getting more and more accepting – Even Italy have lately seen the light and soon will the rest of the world. So the only that are left to ask is if Singapore will be the first Asian country to accept us, its own children and its citizens, or will you be the last?

Ask yourself.

What would you do if you got a gay or lesbian child? Wouldn’t it be better to say that you stand with them and you supported them. Wouldn’t it be better to tell them that your country is also their country and that it loves and supports them no matter what.

 

Did the letter really say “fuck human rights?” between the lines.

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Miriam is into women and is not allowed to engage in relationship conversations with her colleagues

Where is the line between innocent contact and sexual harassment in the workplace? Miriam found out the hard way when she were accused of sexual harassment at her place of work.

Miriam, 29, is a lesbian and last year, her sexuality suddenly became an issue at her workplace after she had touched a female colleagues hand and was suddenly accused of sexual harassment because of this incident.

Miriam had seen her colleague as a confidant and only seen the touch as an innocent touch without a sexual thought in mind when they talked about their relationships. To her it were an emphatic gesture that were meant as a mean of emotional support and not in any way of communicating sexual interest at all.

But after this episode her sexuality suddenly became a problem at her workplace and her team leader demanded that she did not participate in personal conversations with her colleagues any longer. Something that she felt were crossing several boundaries, since she and her colleagues used to talk about their personal life’s daily, and that it were an integrated part of their work day.

Miriam were happy about her job at a retail store at Vivo City, a shopping mall in Singapore. A company she had been working with for several years and generally felt that she had been well treated and in the past also worked at their other locations around in Singapore. She had never concealed the fact that she had a girlfriend and that she were lesbian to her colleagues or superiors. It never felt that she had to limit herself or hide her sexuality while she worked because it weren’t something that came up negatively and she felt liked and accepted where she worked.

It therefore came as a huge shock to her when she suddenly were accused of having violated a colleague and were called into her manager’s office to discuss a “sensitive situation.”, where she were told by her manager that a colleague had felt physically and verbally sexually assaulted by Miriam and had accused her of sexual harassment.

“I was told that I should have touched my colleagues hand a little too affectionate and in the wrong way, and that three other colleagues felt that I had looked at them wrongly in the backroom of the store”.

While talking to her manager, Miriam were told that she no longer were allowed to participate in any personal conversations with her colleagues, especially of any that related to relationship matters and that she should walk away if any of her other colleagues began to discuss their personal relationships while she were near them. Her manager also stressed to Miriam that colleagues do not touch each other in any way whatsoever.

“My manager said that it had nothing to do with the fact that I liked women. But I think it had everything to do with it” said Miriam.

She later found out that the accusation of sexual harassment came from her very close colleague that she had known for years and that the colleague also had told the manager that three other women in the department also felt harassed, but that the manager haven’t directly confirmed this on her own.

Miriam and her colleague had been good friends and close colleagues for some time, they had often lunch together and seen each other outside work as well. Her colleague had even been to her home and met her partner at least twice before in the past, so things between them quickly became very familiar and they had often talked about private matters together both at work and outside work. Her colleague had more than once curiously asked into Miriam’s sexuality and at the same time expresses that she weren’t happy in her marriage and often thought of leaving her husband.

“I asked at one point whether she considered whether she were into women or felt attracted to women, but she answered ‘no’ to that” said Miriam, who at the same time stressed that there had never been anything but friendly feelings between them as colleagues.

The accusation of sexual harassment ends in a sick leave for Miriam and she end up asking if she could be transferred because she didn’t feel welcome there any longer and felt really bad about the whole incident and felt unfairly treated by both her colleague and manager.

 

“No raised eyebrows if I were heterosexual”

Her other colleagues whom she were told, that they should have felt that Miriam should have looked at them wrongly  in the backroom of her workplace, never acknowledged to have been part of the accusation of sexual harassment when she confronted and asked them about it, and Miriam feels convinced that if she had been heterosexual and had behaved in exactly the same way then neither her colleague or manager would have raised an eyebrow.

“I’m more careful at my new workplace. When we make fun and joke with one another, I am always a little nervous and think, uh, oh, I don’t hope they perceive anything I’ve said in the wrong way”.

Miriam is not her real name and she wants to remain anonymous. She confided in me through a number of emails and conversations from August to November 2015 where I got to know about her story. I know about her workplace in Vivo City and her new place of work, and have been able to confirm the existence of several of her colleagues and manager that she named while telling me her story.

Can you be out at your workplace? Are you able to be fully open about your relationship to another woman, or do you feel that you need to limit yourself compared to your heterosexual colleagues?

 

 

Sexually confused man from the “We are against Pink Dot” group created a petition against Adam Lambert to get his attention

Yet again a Singaporean male who don’t know how to express his true feelings are lashing out because he don’t know how to express himself properly.

A long time active member of the “We are against Pink Dot” Facebook group, where he behind his computer previously have been very active in attacking the Pinkdot event and out gays in Singapore, created a petition against Adam Lambert, so he could get his attention.

Adam Lambert, so hot that straight men question their own sexuality.

Adam Lambert, so hot that straight men question their own sexuality.

Yes, we know that hot man Adam Lambert is unreachable to many, but there are better ways to get someone’s attention. Especially if you are that deep in the closet.

The online petition that were launched. Demand that the organizers remove the gay pop star Adam Lambert who were supposed to headline a New Year’s Eve countdown concert in Singapore, and which would be aired live on television.

The petition, which is addressed to concert organizer Mediacorp, the government, sponsors and partners, has garnered more than 15,000 signatures since it was launched and described the singer as a ‘performer fraught with controversy even in his home country’, it lists the American Idol has having ‘engaged in sexualized acts, including kissing a male band member on stage’ and ‘featur(ing) female showgirls and male strippers performing acts of indecency.’

Another petition have been launched in support of Adam Lambert, who likewise have more than 15,000 signatures. Both groups accuse each other of fraud and using double entries, or paying for getting fake signatures.

Adam Lambert is at all not unknown to Singapore and have previously been performing several times at completely sold out venues for several thousands of Singaporeans, making the next event that he is going to perform a rather ordinary event for him.

I mean any men who would turn gay by seeing him perform must already have been infected by his hotness, so one more event can’t harm anyone else…. right?

But what is confusing about this is that Singapore’s media scene is full of out, proud and very popular gay, lesbian and trans performers, and they have never been attacked by the “We are against Pink Dot”, or the other religious crazies that Singaporeans have to deal with, so the only conclusion is that [edited out on request] (the creator of the petition) are having identity issues that he have a difficult time with, and for that he have my sympathy.

“We are against Pink Dot” is an contradiction on its own, as the members there actively spend several hours a day discussing LGBT activities in Singapore and abroad, actually they do it so often that many of them are more informed about what is happening in the LGBT community that I am.

Yes, I feel slightly insulted about that. So I will go out and infect some straight women with my gayness because of them…..

I can try right?

Maybe I should just start a petition against them for being more informed that I am, because it is grossly insulting that I have to look at an anti gay group to find out what is going on in the LGBT circles.

Okay…. Irony and sarcasm aside…..

Why do they spend so much time about something that does not concern them and they clearly are crazy scared about??

What is the next? Should Singapore screen travelers and entertainers for their sexual orientation? Should visitors to certain suburbs declare their sexuality? or should we just get it over with and get our sexual orientation labeled on our IC in the future?

Do I need to mention that our IC is also PINK!!

LGBT Conspiracy anyone??

Turkish police attack Istanbul gay pride with tear gas and rubber bullets

Vice News just posted a must see video from Istanbuls gay pride that were held last weekend.

Istanbuls pride have been held without any brutality from the police for the last 13 years, but this year the police needed to catch up on something and went crazy.

See the video above.

Huffington Post wrote about it too.

 

Is it morally okay that gay haters in Singapore attack children of same-sex couples?

We are now a few days away from Pink Dot and I am seriously pissed!

As I mentioned before we have in Singapore a small but very hateful group who feel entitled and righteous to attack everyone and anyone that does not conform to their own narrow minded world view. That is anyone who is living within the LGBTQA sphere in or around Singapore.

And now they found a new victim to attack.

Or said in another way.

They just realized that lesbian couples can have children together. Initially they were baffled by that idea. How did that compute? Huh? Two women with a child?? They – were – stunned! Wa! In Singapore!!?

I guess that things like IVF and other means of artificial insemination are mostly unknown to them.

I am not saying that that group is the sum of the Singaporean intellectual elite, actually they are most likely very far from it.

The group recently hit a new low point when they decided to attack a little girl and her two (wonderful) parents, because they not only dared to be so brave that they are living in Singapore as an all too normal family, with the small exception that they are a lesbian couple, with everyday boring issues. But then the couple even dared to blog about it in a way, so even a blind person could see that same-sex couples with children is just as doable as heterosexual couples with children.

In fact they even manage to show that their child is happy and very functioning in a family like theirs, and that even same-sex couples have troubles with getting their children to eat vegetables.

Somewhere else in Singapore, peoples faces exploded by the news.

“Gaaah! How can it be that a nuclear lesbian or a gay family can be this happy! That is just so sick!!”

Dear Vernon Chen, Siti Scarlett Zubaidah, Peter Shee, Zaid Lazim, Shamsuria Nor, Siti Scarlett Zuibaidah, Gina Ngiam, Hashim Yuof, Adeline Ho, Mary Tian (who believe homosexuality is like child pornography), Evan Lee and Nina Hong; Do you really believe that growing up with two mothers is a danger to a childs growth and future adult life?

Well, The kids are just fine, thank you very much. Actually, they’re much better than your kids.

According to studies done in the past years, then children of lesbian parents are actually more accepting to democratic attitudes about society than their peers from heterosexual households, are more well rounded and is better able to handle conflicts compared to children who grow up in heterosexual nuclear families according to several studies.

Yes, yes I know. Having a “democratic” attitude in Singapore, might be an issue….

Read the studies “Children Reared By Female Couples Score Higher on Good Citizenship Than Children Reared by Heterosexual Parents“, “The Australian study of child health in same-sex families: background research, design and methodology ” and “The National Lesbian Family Study: 4. Interviews With the 10-Year-Old Children” for more information about these studies. They are quite interesting reads.

Abbie Goldberg from Clark University in Massachusetts who researches homosexual parenting, told LiveScience in 2013 that gay parents “tend to be more motivated and more committed than heterosexual parents on average, because they chose to be parents.” Accidental pregnancies rarely happen in homosexual couples compared to almost 50% of the time for heterosexual couples. Simply choosing to be parents makes a significant difference in whether you will take your parenting responsibilities seriously or not.

Stephen Scott head of research at the National Academy for Parenting Practitioners in United Kingdom, said in 2013 that gay women are better at raising children than traditional parents.

He justified his maybe slight controversial view that research shows that children of two mothers are more ambitious and fight more for social justice than children brought up by a mother and a father.

Daughters of lesbian parents are more likely to look at subjects that traditionally have been considered masculine, for example: Engineering, Medicine and Legal subjects. And that children of lesbians and gays are not becoming “more” gay or seek out gay relationships more often than children of heterosexual parents.

So just because we want to have children on our own, then that does not mean that we will populate and take over the world with our homosexuality.

Well,….okay…. not yet at least.

That anyone, ANYONE, say that same-sex couples are not fit to be parents, simply just don’t have their facts straight – so to speak, hm, and need to look closer into the subject of what it take for same sex couples to become parents and the efforts that we will have to go through, as we most often are not given the same financial benefits as heterosexual couples get.

As gay parents, there WILL be questions that they (we) will have to take with the children that heterosexual parents don’t have to take. But as an adaptable spieces, then we are able to get over the strangest things and still come out on top on it. Besides, someone else have already gone through it before and either written a book about it as a self-help book, or written an easy step by step guide too. So there are really nothing to be concerned or pissed about when it comes to children of gay parents.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ice cream to everyone!

I gave ice cream to the department a few days ago.

Not that it was out of my good heart, but I lost a draw and then why not use all that pent up energy from the weekend to go down and buy the boys and the rest of the department ice cream?

I call them boys to tease the geeks, plus I got a feeling that they kind a like it, even when they strongly object to it. If it is socially okay for them to call women, girls, then why wouldn’t it be okay for me to call the guys for boys?!?

Earlier that day I had a chat with the HR manager director, well it is either of the titles, can’t remember right now. She asked how I were doing and if I needed any moral support after these days, and well, then just wanted to talk for a while to follow up on our last talks.

Aren’t she nice?

As a HR person she is quite cool by the way. She is not a power suit person, bicycle to work on a men’s bicycle because “the frame is stronger and faster, and I don’t do slow”. I don’t know if that is true but it sounded like it when she said that it was so.

You usually see her in a t-shirt and hoodie, stone washed jeans and crew cut hair.

So when I met her for the first time after my transfer to where I am now, my broken gaydar screamed “OH YES! LESBIAN COLLEAGUE. HOW COOL IS THAT” In your face fate, I thought.

I have never worked in an office with another out lesbian (who didn’t leave for another country the moment she came out), and I just feel that I am missing something in my professional life. It’s not that sexuality matters at work, but well, you know?… It could just be fun.

She got short well kept nails.

Women with long nails are just not bi or les. Or said in another way. Lesbians with long nails is a sure sign that they haven’t had sex in a very long time. At least not good sex.

Or is just a selfish pillow princess.

So avoid long nails! No good can come out of it.

Scissor hands are not getting near me at all.

And she got amaaazing.. Eh.. said in another way;

My grandmother once told me that if I kept my breasts as young as a 20 year old, then I could rule any man that I wanted.

That was long before I joined team L. by the way.

If my grandmother is right, then my colleague here must be fiercely ruling her husband.

Yes you read it right! She is straight and married to the manliest man that you can ever think about. I told myself that she must be overcompensating for something else.. Got 2.5 child and very settled in.

½ = poodle. Of all animals… a poodle! That is just so gay!

But I had somehow flatly ignored the pictures on her desk and ended up asking in my typical subtle way.

When I do subtle, I usually open out with asking if I haven’t seen her at the local lesbian club or bar, or whatever famous lesbian event that even straight people knows about, or if that was her girlfriend / wife I saw her with “the other day”. (There were no other day)

So very subtle.

My so-called gaydar radar is right about 60% of the times, other times I have to give in and admit that women just like to dress and act hipster gay.

If they say that they aren’t gay, then I will change subject and complain about that.

I mean if anything, I can at least leave them with a sense of fashion insecurity.

But we got around several subjects in out chat, until she ended up asking me if it were true that I called them “boys” and if I didn’t know that it could be seen as offensive to some?

I replied with that when I did call them “boys” it usually were after they had called us “girls”, or somehow shortly after, and that I by the way didn’t really see the difference and felt it just as offensive to be called “a girl” by a guy who are younger than me.

She understood the point, but didn’t know what to do about it.

What do you think? Is it okay for the guys / men to call us “girls”, but it is not okay for us to call them “boys”?