A little song

I am sure that you already read “So… what is really going on in a same-sex wedding?“? Right?? I mean you do read all my posts don’t you???

Anyway you are forgiven if you missed that one.

But after I posted, then I got some several requests for what my uncle and family cooked up and made the whole family sing to me at the pre Christmas party in Netherlands, so I guess that could just as well share it with all of you.

For those who don’t know about Dutch Christmas, then it is a very serious event where you not only need to keep track about the 25th and 26th. No December 5th is also kinda important. Santa and his helper is coming to town on that date and since my sister is married to a guy who is half Danish, then we also sort of celebrate the 24th among us.

So stress – and overeating is what I can describe the month of December.

Before you see the lyrics for the song then “Vive la Vie” is a lesbian bar in Amsterdam. It is also french for “celebrate life” or “live life fully”.

I am S.J. It’s short for Sarah-Jane. I am most of the time just called Jane, or SJ by most people who know me. Guess Sarah-Jane is too long and exhausting for most people to say.


Vive La Vie S.J.
(Song based on Y.M.C.A by Village People)

Young girl, there’s no need to feel down
I said, young girl, pick yourself off the ground
I said, young girl, ’cause you’re in a new town
There’s no need to be unhappy

Young girl, there’s a place you can go
I said, young girl, when you’re short on your dough
You can stay there, and I’m sure you will find
many ways to have a good time

It’s fun to stay at v-i-v-e
It’s fun to stay at v-i-v-e

They have everything, for you to enjoy
You can hang out with all the girls

It’s fun to stay at v-i-v-e
It’s fun to stay at v-i-v-e

You can get yourself clean, you can have a good meal
You can do what about you feel

Young girl, are you listening to me?
I said, young girl, what do you want to be?
I said, young girl, you can make real your dreams
But you got to know this one thing

No girl does it all by herself
I said, young girl, put your pride on the shelf
And just go there, to v.i.v.e
I’m sure they can help you today

It’s fun to stay at v-i-v-e
It’s fun to stay at v-i-v-e

They have everything for you girls to enjoy
You can hang out with all the girls

It’s fun to stay at v-i-v-e
It’s fun to stay at v-i-v-e

You can get yourself clean, you can have a good meal
You can do what about you feel

Young girl, I was once in your shoes
I said, I was down and out with the blues
I felt no girl cared if I were alive
I felt the whole world was so tight

That’s when someone came up to me
And said, young girl, take a walk up the street
There’s a place there called v.i.v.e
They can start you back on your way

It’s fun to stay at v-i-v-e
It’s fun to stay at v-i-v-e

They have everything for you girls to enjoy
You can hang out with all the girls

v-i-v-e, you’ll find it at v-i-v-e

Young girl, young girl, there’s no need to feel down
Young girl, young girl, get yourself off the ground

v-i-v-e, you’ll find it at v-i-v-e

Young girl, young girl, there’s no need to feel down
Young girl, young girl, get yourself off the ground

v-i-v-e, just go to v-i-v-e

Young girl, young girl, are you listening to me?
Young girl, young girl, what do you wanna be?




So… what is really going on in a same-sex wedding?

I just came back from a family(from the Dutch side) gathering that always is held on the first day of advent and I guess is something we do to celebrate the coming of Christmas.

Let’s just say that Christmas is a very big thing in this part of the family.

And not in a religious way.

It’s more focused on candy, sweets, food and lot’s of alcohol plus some kind of homebrew that can be used to remove nail polish with if there is anything left after the party.

Oh yes, Christmas songs and gifts are somehow important too. According to Dutch traditions Santa (or Sinterklaas) and his minions arrive on Dec 5 to give gifts to all the nice children. But because we are greedy and need to do it on a day where everyone can get together, then we do it in the weekend before or sometimes after the 5th.

I believe that the advent tradition began as a small feast for the children in the family where they could do some Christmas decorations, play and fool around with each other, and that the family then had a reason to get together. One day it got extended to “let’s have some more food and drinks for the so-called adults too!”.

Today I also became the target of a joke at the party.

My dad’s brother, my uncle, is someone who is planning his jokes well ahead and feel no shame in life – I guess that part is a family disease because his wife and 2 sons is the same, and this time they teamed up against me! Well one of the event’s were against little me.

“S.J. Some of us has still not received any invitation from you.”

“or WE haven’t.”

“We don’t know if we ever will be invited to your wedding because we have now been waiting for it for years, and were wondering if a gay wedding is so secret that you don’t dare to invite your family, or if it is an exclusive gays only event?!”.

At that point. I am thinking “WTF?” while I am looking over at my sister, who looked like she were about to pee herself because she were laughing so much.

Clearly she knew what was going on.

“We did our research on gay weddings and from there we became inspired to sing a song for you, that we are also planning to sing at your wedding if you don’t get married soon.”

Around that time I were wondering if I should run and hide somewhere.

“To make sure that everyone here know and is well prepared for your wedding – that we hope will be very soon – I am inviting everyone here to sing with us.”

“Please come up to the front with me, so we all can sing this song that is specially re-written for you. The melody and lyrics is based on the song Y.M.C.A. by the Village People.”.

20++ people then stood up and faced me, while my aunt and their sons handed out the song that they have made and forced everyone to sing for me while my face felt red as an fire engine. Well it felt awful warm at least.


…. I don’t know what is worse? Having family members who put you in the dark corner close to emergency exit at family gatherings and then try to forget all about you, or put you in the spotlight? It now turns out that I got both types in the family.


It actually were sweet, fun and thankfully quick experience.

Thinking back to it, then it is fun to think about, but in the moment it felt a little too much.

Maybe that was because the joke were targeted me this time instead of some of the others?

It turned out that they, my uncle, his wife and kids, talked about me a few weeks back, and came in doubt if I already were married, and if so, why they haven’t been invited to anything at all or met my partner yet??

They called my sister to find out what my status were, and she replied ironically that I still had to find the right wedding song before I could even think about sending any invitations out.

The conversation continued about and around me. What I would be doing with the less accepting part of my Singaporean relatives? How would I prepare them for the shock? What is going on in a same-sex wedding?

Oh! And if both brides would wear white dresses??

Okay, I guess that question were more from my aunt than from my uncle, who I guess don’t care much about what I would wear to my own wedding.

None of them even thought about just calling me to ask.

In their discussion they, I guess my cousins, found this video on YouTube that I feel hit it perfectly, and I am quite sure that I will have to arrange some sort of an pre wedding seminar in the same style for some of my relatives in Singapore before they would dare go to a same-sex wedding.

I had already seen the video a few times before today and find it so fun, that I wish someone would make a Singaporean version of it.

While, or after they watched the video, one of them remembered my sisters quick remark about finding the right wedding song, and decided to make one for me (that I under no circumstances will allow to be played at my one day wedding to be!).

“Your car is so lesbian”

My brother is so nice to bring the car for service for me.

Not because that he suddenly had a moment of brotherly love, but because he sold his car and he for the first time in years is without a car.


Talk about culture shock.

That is when he heard that I needed to get my car for service on Monday, that he saw the opportunity to help his little sister out and out of the blue offered to help me out, based on that he then could use it for the rest of the week.

First text I got from him after I guided him to the spare keys over the phone.

“This must be the nicest smelling car in Singapore”.

10 minutes later.

“This car is so gay!”

2 minutes later again.

“I feel emasculated driving your car!”

“You need more manly music!”.

(I will try to learn to take a screen-shot of my phone conversations one day)

It is true. I have for some time haven’t had a single male singer or band with a male singer near my car lately – and no it is not because I prefer (or an agenda) to only listen to female artists or don’t like male musicians, but my collection in the car is currently a mix of Uh Huh Her, Katy Perry, Shania Twain, Lykke Li and some k-pop and j-rock female bands that I can’t recall the name of right now.

Besides it would be just weird to listen to a male voice singing “I Kissed A Girl”.

I’m the cool aunt for the day.

I am going to play the cool aunt for both my sisters and brothers children later today, yay! Looking forward to it and it’s going to be so fun. Hmm for the first two hours, then I might be exhausted and ready to faint before they have to be returned, but until then I’m going to spoil them all like never before.

But I have to keep up the reputation as the cool one in the family, while it lasts right?

Oh by the way. My brothers 4 year old. Guess what his favorite music video is? Miley Cyrus, Wrecking Ball! I kid you not.

Note to self, need a serious word with my brother about female role models, but then again, when I sat down and asked my nephew about the video and if he liked it, his reply was “yea, but she is not as cool as you,” aww. Extra hug for you little man!