And a Happy New Year to you all.

Didn’t expect this one the last first day of the year?!

I haven’t felt like blogging for a while. Not that I haven’t had anything to talk about, but my mind and brain just weren’t into writing anything in this “semi” public diary of mine.

In the new hear I hope that I will be able to sit down and write about Singapore’s oldest lesbian couple that I met back in November (or early December?), and they had quite a life story that I would love to share with the rest of you. It is about 50% complete from where I want it to be, so cross your (my) fingers that it will be posted soon. We had a talk about changes through life and ages, finding love, Singapore’s lack of acceptance and that it is never too late for anyone to come out of closet!

I will return to work again on the 16th, but just came in for lunch and… you know, just to say hi to everyone and give all who deserve it a happy New Year hug. But after being away for about half a year, then it were a little odd to be back in the office and it almost felt like the “first day” at work again.

For the next few months I will be working part time and just try to ease myself into “work” again, but then again “part time” to me usually means close to what everyone else consider close to full time – European working hours!!

It also means that I won’t be teaching about Journalism and Reporting in Asia this year as part of the agreement with my employer. I feel quite sad about that decision because it is something I look forward to months in advance and is something that I really enjoy doing.

But as they say in the movies and cheesy romantic novellas. I will be back!

Next year…

Spending 6 month with almost no travels, no airplanes, no airports, no hotels, especially no hotel food! and full nights of non stressed sleep is something that I haven’t had tried in years and I honestly can’t remember when I last felt this relaxed and at ease with myself.

I have been so much at ease that it almost lead to borderline boredom.

But then I had plenty of time to read quite a lot of books in the Lesbian genre and whatever I could find of interesting reads on Literotica and others like that.

Oh by the way, can you remember the time when if you needed to know if anyone were lesbian, that you then just had to ask what their profile name were on PinkSofa?

It turns out that I still have an active profile on that site and someone (nunejr)- who must have been more bored than me, and/or just returned to Singapore from the UK, gave me a smile there.

I didn’t reply because S…. would object greatly to it and will likewise question about why I still have an active account there at all! I had forgotten all about it.

I used to like PinkSofa because the profiles there felt more genuine than on many other dating sites and for some reason there were less fake profile there as well. Maybe I am fooling myself about that part?, but that is what I believe. Especially back when I used to be very (very) active in the dating and “lets get together” scene.

Do you still use PinkSofa? Do any? What alternatives to PinkSofa do you use today? I mean where do lesbians go unicorn hunting now? Or are you one of the daring ones who hit on all the straight ladies and don’t care about rejections?

By the way, I send an email to PinkSofa and asked them about what it would cost to send out a mass email to all the women who have registered from Singapore through them. (they haven’t replied yet!)

In the months of staring up at the ceiling, going through a wall repainting project, reading a crazy amounts of books, spend too much time on online shopping and binge watching all episodes of Grey’s Anatomy for the n’th time, then I wondered if I should take up the Lesbian Dinner event in Singapore that I used to frequent in Netherlands, and then maybe use PinkSofa as a platform in trying to marketing it to those who don’t know who I am.

I think it would be more interesting to meet someone who aren’t in your already closely knitted lesbian circle.

I know that S… would be cheering for it and for more than one reason would jump at a dinner (She will message me 2-3 minutes after I have posted this and say “about bloody fudge[censored]ing time!!!” among xxx other). She would of course also use the dinner as a recruiting platform for her yoga mindray to get more to join yoga classes in Singapore, or find out what classes they already attended.

But what do you say? 10-12 semi single(or just want to meet new friends) ladies for dinner dating at my place? Would that be something that could work in little Singapore?

Yes there would be plenty of red wine to the Introverts.

 

I didn’t get to write about the most despicable person I have ever seen on the Internet in 2016 either. And it is not Trump or a racist asshole Trump supporter.

There is a person calling herself the “Lesbian Pua”. PUA means PickUp Artist. She is absolutely not a lesbian. More bisexual in my book since she got a boyfriend. But this person find it is okay to upload videos of her female sexual conquests to YouTube, and without the partners consent record them with a hidden camera, so everyone can see who and how many she have had sex with.

I don’t know what people do for views and likes these days, but I really feel that life and society have taken a very wrong turn for the worse if anyone’s life and self-esteem are determined by a number below a picture or a video.

The crazy lengths they are willing to go for these views and likes? And for what??

I just wonder if she even think about the women that she beds and record in secret. Does she even consider or think about their emotions and the consequences it might have on their personal life’s when she makes it public on the internet?

I mean what the f!!!?

You can read more about her on Tumblr or on YouTube and decide for yourself if she could take the title as the most despicable LGBT person of 2016
With this I wish you a Happy New Year, and hopefully a much better and happier 2017.

Take care everyone!
Sarah-Jane

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Not working today, so thought that I would out my queer fridge to the world for once.

Took Monday and Tuesday of after this weekend and let me just say that I still feel the effects from whatever that I got Saturday – and I guess that say a lot about my ability to handle various types of alcohol.

Anyway let me introduce something dear to me.

My fridge!

Yes, I really don’t know what I should be doing without her.

Shop more often I guess??

 

 

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Beetroot,Red Cherry Paprica w cheese, Ginger root, Lime, 2 x Cheese and Toblerone!!

 

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Homemade strawberry / rhubarb jam (curtsey my sister and sister in law), Chicken that should have been used Yesterday!!, more jam (not homemade), 2 x Swedish mustard that I for some reason bought in Sweden, and still don’t know why I wanted to buy them and then bring them all the way back with me. Milk in a milk jug and mayo (I think).

Oh yes, lower left corner: White wine from Chile and two bottles of water.

 

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Plums (of some sort), cooking butter, Olives!!!!. Amazingly enough I got half of a small glass left? Potatoes that need to be eaten asap. Salad (in the large box below the potatoes). Two boxes with unknown content??

 

(Going to look)

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Turned out that I actually knew what were in the them.

Homemade by my own hands, garlic (judging by the smell; lots and lots of garlic) and dill dressing for the salad.

Watermelon and cheese salad, leftovers – with mint leaves I believe. Home created as well. (by me and me alone!!)

 

What I didn’t show

Top drawer: Assorted beer cans that is about to go over date, 7 types of different juices all within an acceptable date range, Apple cider that taste of butt crack, Sundried tomatoes (in a glass), Roasted red peppers also in a glass and what was long time ago supposed to be hummus.

Lower drawer (aka veggie drawer): Tomatoes (lots and too many to count), cucumber (yes, yes every lesbian need one of those – or at least to some male fantasies), red and green pepper, lemon grass, red and white(?) onions, what was once salad leaves. Old (very, very old) asparagus, ican billis – not sure why they are in that drawer?? What I am quite certain is Water spinach. Xiang Mai Chye and Pak Choi that both have seen better days.

Fridge door: Too much to mention.

 

FOOD: Cold avocado and cucumber soup with salmon

This first little dish is a little tricky to describe because I make it mostly by touch and feel now.

You will need a blender or a food processor for the soup.

Cold avocado and cucumber soup with salmon is quick to make and is something that can impress your date or partner. It is by the way a dish that is fun to prepare together.

The soup can be kept cold in the fridge for a few days if you make too much of it and you can just as well drink it from a glass as a avocado cucumber smoothie. Just add more water to make it thinner.

(for two persons)

1 clove garlic
1/2 cucumber
1 avocado
1 dl (or cup) cream
50 grams of spinach
Juice from 2 normal sized lemons
zest from 1 organic lemon
zest from 1 organic orange
1 pinch cayenne pepper
½ teaspoon curry
1 tablespoon grainy mustard
1 bunch fresh dill
Tabasco as needed

Optional ½ bunch of mint leaves.

Garnish with dill or watercress.

2 pieces of salmon at about 120 grams each.

 

Soup

Peel the cucumber, zest the lemon and orange, and blend all the ingredients for the soup in a blender or a food processor. Add water but make sure that the soup stay thick-ish.

The white pith is bitter and unpleasant in both lemons and oranges, so avoid that when you grate/zest them and always make sure that you use organic lemons and oranges for this. If you don’t know how to grate a lemon, then the youtube video below explains it well.

Serve in two deep plates and keep them in the fridge until the salmon is done. Alternatively keep the blended soup in the fridge until the salmon is done and then prepare the plates while the salmon is resting.

 

The Salmon

Melt butter or use a nice type of olive oil in a frying pan. Season the salmon with salt and pepper. Don’t overdo the pepper and optionally squeeze a little bit of lemon juice over it. Place the salmon skin-side down. Fry for 2-3 minutes, then turn the salmon over and fry for a further 1-2 minutes, or until cooked through.

If you don’t know how to pan sear a salmon, then this youtube video explains how to do it in an easy way. It’s not that difficult and is easy to do if you keep an eye on it until you feel confident about it.

Let the salmon settle away from the pan for a minute or two before serving. But serve it while still warm.

Take the plates out of the fridge, place the warm salmon on top of the soup and garnish with either fresh dill or watercress and serve.

Everything takes about 10 to 15 minutes to do.

Lesbian food and Books?

In the upper right corner(or somewhere else on mobile devices) you can now see that I added two new categories “Lesbian Food” and “Books”.

It is part of a personal side project that is long overdue, so I decided to include it in this blog and somehow slowly get myself started with the easy things by writing about food and books that I have read from Amazons Lesbian Romance section, or whatever Bella Books decided was good enough to be published.

Usually I manage to digest one or two books a month, so don’t expect the section to be updated more than once or twice a month. The food section will be updated about 3-4 times a month and will only include dishes that I had the pleasure of creating or tasting. Maybe even both.

And yes I know (sigh). Calling anything “Lesbian Food” is…. an invitation to get your eyes rolling. hm!